For centuries men and women have used some form of perfume to change the way their particular odour affected those around them. Artificial scent is pleasant to the senses, and perhaps perfume was primarily used to attract a mate. We enthusiastically continue this process today, with a limitless amount of fragrance options available.
I recall a moment in time as a young nineteen year old woman, while walking along a crowded Swanston St. towards the iconic Flinders St. Station in Melbourne. I had stopped at a pedestrian crossing until the flow of traffic had subsided, when an overwhelming and recognisable scent drifted my way. The fragrance was oh so delicious! I turned to view the person who had this instant affect on my otherwise passive temperament, he was absolutely gorgeous. I could have leapt into his arms there and then, but alas, the lights changed allowing the crowd to continue their journey. Perhaps a lost opportunity, or not, but whether we would have been compatible remains an unknown.
Which brings me to the subject of personal odour. I wonder why we are so reluctant for others to smell who we really are? Do we mask our natural odour for fear that others may be repelled by it? Do you really know what you smell like? On a day when you are home alone and haven’t had a shower, smell accessible parts of your body and ask yourself, is it offensive. If your smell is unpleasant, there may be several causes, such as the medications you take, certain foods or spices you eat, or even bacteria that live on you or on your clothing. Some foods can release gases when they are metabolised by your body and the odour seems to seep from every pore. Smoking, alcohol and disease also affect body odour. So, for whatever reason, we all have different odours.
Consider how we seem to have a need to alter how we smell to ourselves and others. Your natural body odour is altered by deodorant, perfume or the aftershave you use. Plus there are various fragrances found in soap, , shampoo, makeup, hair products and many other items you regularly use. Your body odour is now completely masked by a concoction of many different scents, which may affect how you appear to others. Have you ever walked into a room and have been overpowered by the smell of a cheap perfume that is so offensive you just want to run? This is a perfect example of how an odour can have an effect on those around you.
Recently we were dining with friends and they started discussing what had attracted them to each other. When they first met, there was an instant attraction and it was not just their appearance or personalities. To each, the scent of the other was also an attraction. She stated that as her relationship with her first husband had deteriorated, his odour became so repugnant to her, that she would turn her back to him in bed to avoid his stench. While he mentioned that his previous wife started to complain about his smell, so he resorted to showering twice a day (showering too often dries out your skin). Finally, he couldn’t even stand his own body odour, as his relationship deteriorated further.
The conversation continued and became even more intriguing. Our friends had known each other for several years before becoming partners and noticed they both found a change in their natural odour as their relationship developed. Both coming from failed relationships where body odour became a problem, to a new situation where body odour had either become much more pleasant or completely neutral. This neutral or non-existent odour fascinates both of them still to this day.
The statistics on failed or failing relationships are astounding, there might be an underlying reason, which has largely been ignored for this continuing decline in personal associations. Upon further discussion, our group concluded that perhaps artificially changing our natural body odour is at least partly to blame.
We watch other mammals using the sense of smell to find a mate, yet we ignore this basic human function and prefer to disguise ourselves in order to perhaps feel like the movie star who promotes our particular brand of perfume or aftershave.
How is this working for us? Not very well I would have to say.
By removing all other fragrances and allowing your own unique body odour to shine through, you just may end up finding the right mate. Could we humans be choosing our mates unwisely, because we have never really found out what the other person truly smells like, and if we did, would we still want them? I had a girlfriend who stated she was always able to attract men whenever she went out. This woman had a pleasant face and figure, but she was certainly no raving beauty. Her trick was to smear her own body fluid behind her ears and on her neck and wrists. It worked a treat and she too married the man of her dreams, who also smelt delicious.
So, I suggest the next time you go out in search of a mate, wear your own natural odour and see what happens.
Drop me a line, I would love to know how you went.